One of the most often heard refrain from parents as well as teachers is this : Children don’t listen. Teachers blame the parents, and parents blame the school. Some blame it on the generation issues. Here are the most common phrases that you being a parent or student might have heard or encountered such incident on your life.
“I keep telling my daughter to eat the vegetables but she doesn’t listen”
“It’s impossible to talk to my son when he is watching TV, he just won’t listen.”
“This class is very annoying. No one listens to me when I am teaching.”
Even though I am a student but these tips are used by my mother so that I listen to her and give her the desired attention. Remember, I assure you following the below mentioned tips, parents can get their children’s attention by altering a few things in their approach and behavior.
Be a little bossy but not a dictator -
Every child needs his/her space of freedom. Define your child limits and make sure she respects you from heart. If there is respect then automatically his/her will listen to you. Let them be, but do keep an eagle eye to ensure that things are not going out of hand.
Define and make realistic punishments -
Often children know their parents limits and even challenge test them. Instead of unrealistic punishments, threaten them and make sure you being the parent punish if he/she has crossed the limits. As a result children would also be afraid before making any future mistakes.
Communicate to the point and early -
If your child is young then it’s better to use short words to grasp his/her attention. In fact teenagers tend to switch off in case you sound rambling. So get your point across without losing their attention or getting glazed reactions.
Staying calm -
My parents used to call me “Angry young boy”. Indeed during my childhood days, I often used to break whatever accessories that came to my hand. To remedy such aggressive behavior, my mother told me to count till ten when my anger is at its peak and then subsequently it will get minimal. Other tactics could be breathing in/out, focusing on something positive etc.
Don’t give anything fancy to your child -
There might be a possibly that you being a parent want to give your child the best funky and fancy gadget whose use even you don’t know. This is a sure shot way of widening the gap between the parents and children. And as the gap widens listening drops.
Always encourage to have a listening culture -
It is of utmost importance that you go out for picnics, adventure trips and religious trips. A simple meal together where in there is a lot of happy talking and listening should be encouraged.
Never hurt his/her self-esteem -
Keeping the child’s self- esteem intact is of utmost importance. Clubbing bad behavior with a bad person is a big “NO”. It is desirable to point out the bad action, and not make it an attack on the child’s personality.
At the end, I would like to say most parents have a short time to spend with their kids and hence try to focus their children needs into their routine. This may work with some children but not with the most. Children look forward to spending time with their children and hence crave for attention.